tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post5532185315769239685..comments2023-11-05T05:10:04.199-05:00Comments on With Michelle Armas: On feeling bitter...Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-58055181585692204492012-09-30T14:21:10.570-05:002012-09-30T14:21:10.570-05:00Cut back on the cursing? Fuck that.Cut back on the cursing? Fuck that.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14462243804515032968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-1914750193139881482012-09-18T17:13:04.880-05:002012-09-18T17:13:04.880-05:00No tears, just keepin' it real, sister! Someth...No tears, just keepin' it real, sister! Something I recently (finally) did myself coincidentally. Here's to a year of big things and big truths. Muah! 2 by Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09115968434625809488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-21515162582988869522012-09-18T15:44:50.984-05:002012-09-18T15:44:50.984-05:00E, thank you. What a sweet, heart felt note. Thank...E, thank you. What a sweet, heart felt note. Thank you for understanding, thank you for being kind, and thank you for reaching out to me. You made me cry!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-2164563911565476262012-09-18T15:42:38.442-05:002012-09-18T15:42:38.442-05:00Michelle, I remember our brief conversation about ...Michelle, I remember our brief conversation about this and have thought about you often in the days since. I also remember what I felt like when Terry and I were trying (praying, waiting, begging) and all my friends suddenly got pregnant, well, the old fashioned way. It’s an inexplicable dance, really. Trying to live your everyday life as if nothing extraordinary is going on inside your head. There were so many times I cried and felt like 1.) I was being punished and 2.) maybe it wasn’t in the cards for a reason. I felt guilty for everything. For maybe not always treating my body as I should, for somehow having MS, for not being able to give my husband a child, for feeling so shit about myself when other people were dealing with so much more (dungeon floors and all). It was so overwhelming and I just couldn’t - WOULDN’T - talk about how much. Which is why I was beyond thrilled to see this post!!! I had tears in my eyes reading through it, partly because my heart ached for everything you went through, and partly because I was so filled with joy to see that you’d made the decision to adopt. There is much in this life I don’t know, but I am 100% certain about this: you are meant to be a mother. An incredible mother who fills her home with laughter, beauty and magic. When I was in my darkest hour, someone dear told me she truly thought kids chose their parents and for whatever reason our paths hadn’t yet crossed. Well friend, I think yours just saw you turn the corner. And what an amazing introduction it will be. Hugs. 2 by Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09115968434625809488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-67515511535359239692012-09-13T21:28:00.867-05:002012-09-13T21:28:00.867-05:00I have no words, other than: I can't wait to s...I have no words, other than: I can't wait to see the inspired paintings you and your future baby wonder will make together.Kayla Poolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17290658489564992879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-16384870912606678362012-09-12T11:14:55.378-05:002012-09-12T11:14:55.378-05:00you are awesome. i had no idea you were going thro...you are awesome. i had no idea you were going through all of this. i empathize. fertility treatment consumes! your life when you're in it. there is hardly room in your brain for anything else. so glad to see you followed your heart and your own path despite the nosey-bodies! some lucky kiddo is going to have super strong examples to follow with you guys as parents. best wishes and prayers!stephaniecorfeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11867153513931257060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-63895323043437314552012-09-10T07:37:34.119-05:002012-09-10T07:37:34.119-05:00Oh Michelle, it's posts like this that make yo...Oh Michelle, it's posts like this that make you one of my favourite bloggers/artists/people! We are all going through issues but so many people don't want to talk about them for fear that people won't think they're living picture perfect lives. You are the best, and I know you're going to be the best Mom ever!!!Adriane /// The A and B Storieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17112151801692329196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-28036033805942981492012-09-07T07:18:00.409-05:002012-09-07T07:18:00.409-05:00Thank you Monica, I appreciate you sharing all of ...Thank you Monica, I appreciate you sharing all of this with me!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-89065477106064464662012-09-07T07:17:36.169-05:002012-09-07T07:17:36.169-05:00Oh Mary Beth, I totally understand this. I am so l...Oh Mary Beth, I totally understand this. I am so lucky that my surgeon was amazing, gentle and kind. My Gyno, and Fertility doc also women, have been so wonderful. But you know what, I purposely spent time seeking them out b/c the Gyno who originally diagnosed me with Endometriosis was so incompetent (she punctured my uterus three times!, and never came to see me in the hospital to tell me about my results, another doctor had to do it.) I still hate her. So I get it, I am am so sorry you had to go through that! Thank you for your comment.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-83414639290236625812012-09-07T07:15:13.005-05:002012-09-07T07:15:13.005-05:00Melissa, thank you for sharing. I wish you the ver...Melissa, thank you for sharing. I wish you the very best of luck, and I will be thinking about you on your path. I can't image how difficult this time in your life is, but I am confident that when you do become a mother, however that happens, you will be happy either way. Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-68103743557861499652012-09-07T04:53:10.540-05:002012-09-07T04:53:10.540-05:00Dear Michelle,
I love how you say things that so m...Dear Michelle,<br />I love how you say things that so many of us feel, or have felt, but can't quite capture into words (even in hindsight, when it is easiest to do so). <br /><br />I remember when our infertility doctor looked at me -- I was sitting alone as my husband could not join me on that particular day -- and told me that the odds were I would never have children w/out the help of treatment. The doctor spoke very callously - it was an "as matter of fact" delivery with even an edge or tinge of something that did not sit right. To me, the listener, it felt like the doctor had stepped on me. I remember being very small in that momemnt - even my posture in the chair was small - I remember that. <br /><br />The doctor was a woman - which, for me, was the worst offense of all. Why didn't she know to deliver the message just a bit more softly? <br /><br />Alas...include me as yet another coming out of the woodwork! <br /><br />Michelle---my VERY best to you and to your dear O! Will look forward to hearing any updates you want to share~. Mary Bethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-23444862443812865772012-09-07T00:40:01.314-05:002012-09-07T00:40:01.314-05:00Oh man, does this hit home for me. My husband and...Oh man, does this hit home for me. My husband and I were just starting to try for a wee bebe about 6 weeks ago, when WHAM - I found a lump under my right arm. Lymphoma. Slow growing, but incurable. We have seen several fertility specialists who have all basically told me that it would take them too long to make my body pump out the eggs needed to be successful before I needed treatment. I am not a young chick anymore. Heartbreaking. So my doctors devised a plan of a short term antibody treatment (not as toxic as regular chemo, which would put me into menopause in 5 seconds flat) experiment of four weeks and if they see enough improvement we can try for a baby and resume treatment later. However, we had to come to terms that we may have to look at adoption, and that is okay. For me, the experience of being a mom outweighs the need to pass on my own DNA. And only you can define who makes up your 'family' - I am so happy for you both. And kudos for you for taking charge of your health in such an emotional time. Your family will be better for it and self determination is a great gift that you can give your kiddos! Be well!!!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08593218762113362111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-14474631810859688992012-09-06T16:07:36.771-05:002012-09-06T16:07:36.771-05:00Michelle, thank you for your thoughtful and honest...Michelle, thank you for your thoughtful and honest post. I feel somewhat intrusive about what I am posting, and in no way am I suggesting that you change whatever decision you have come to as best for you and your husband. I think adoption is a wonderful option, and I just want to preface again that this comment is not intended to change that. Having autoimmune conditions of my own, I have done so much nutrition self-education in an attempt to heal myself from a condition western medicine has not been able to solve. If you have any interest in alternative avenues for attaining health, I think you might find lots of interesting and useful information in the paleo community in regards to autoimmune conditions and infertility. I would recommend chris kresser's website, he is an integrative medicine practitioner and has TONS of very well written articles including those on fertility and adrenal fatigue as well (he speaks from personal experience when he and his wife had 2 years of difficulty conceiving). I will say that being in the nursing field myself, anything "alternative" formerly equated to quackery, but his articles is very well grounded in evidence based research. Again, I congratulate your courage to decide what is right for you! <br /><br />Take care, MonicaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-56158058175530852892012-09-06T10:04:08.816-05:002012-09-06T10:04:08.816-05:00Oh my gosh, you are so NOT alone. Like you said a...Oh my gosh, you are so NOT alone. Like you said and as with so many things in life, once you begin to share your journey you come to know so many others have walked the same path. I think I've told you that my sister had an illness that led to a situation like yours. They chose the route of IVF and I am so blessed to have two beautiful nephews to love on. Had they chosen the road of adoption, I would have been equally blessed to have a beautiful niece or nephew to adore. Doesn't matter how you get there. <br /><br />As for parenthood, almost 13 years into it and I've yet to handle it with dignity and self-assuredness all of the time. You should hear the epic battles that ensue between me and my almost teenager every morning. So don't be hard on yourself because I am certain that no one else in your life is as tough on you as YOU! I'm so excited for you and O and wish you happiness as you embark on this path.<br /><br />xonelyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14773127471112988087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-57957295796368042102012-09-06T08:26:40.155-05:002012-09-06T08:26:40.155-05:00Thank you guys very much for taking the time to se...Thank you guys very much for taking the time to send me a little bit of love through my email :) It makes me feel so much less alone!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-44088743672221781342012-09-06T08:25:50.950-05:002012-09-06T08:25:50.950-05:00Thank you! I can't wait to check it out.Thank you! I can't wait to check it out.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022819745626507951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-18056896364544128272012-09-05T23:06:31.975-05:002012-09-05T23:06:31.975-05:00You will be an amazing, modern Mom. (It's ok t...You will be an amazing, modern Mom. (It's ok to swear) Patti Fridayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07048483124585032908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-13991366324650544462012-09-05T21:03:24.737-05:002012-09-05T21:03:24.737-05:00Loved this:) All the best in your journey.
Just i...Loved this:) All the best in your journey. <br />Just in my family alone we have dealt with miscarriages, abortions(eek), adopting out children and lately a case of endometriosis and now my niece is going for her second IVF (first one didn't take)The journey is hard and defiantly painful at times, but we sure do discover who we are and what we are made of. When my teenage daughter decided to adopt out her beautiful son... I thought I would die...but he became a beautiful gift to a wonderful new family. We keep in touch and get to watch him grow. I hope the same miracle happens to you. C'est la viePati Nnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-21699821402965514532012-09-05T21:00:52.174-05:002012-09-05T21:00:52.174-05:00P.S. Whenever or however it happens, you're go...P.S. Whenever or however it happens, you're going to be one helluva kickass mama!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-18859682400219846902012-09-05T20:59:51.230-05:002012-09-05T20:59:51.230-05:00Hi Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear about that h...Hi Michelle, I'm so sorry to hear about that heartbreaking news. Love the Someecard which sums exactly what people say as well! Once again you're a brave lady and inspiration for sharing the hard and honest stuff. I have friends who have gone through this, and I can see how devastating that can be.<br /><br />Good luck on the adoption process! I have friends and family members who are adopted themselves, or have adopted. All are incredibly lucky to have found their families all over the world, and I'm crossing my fingers for you and O. Big hugs!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-47166424115419827162012-09-05T16:40:33.526-05:002012-09-05T16:40:33.526-05:00girl, i have nothing to say but just wanted to thr...girl, i have nothing to say but just wanted to throw some love at you. life is hard and really sucks sometimes. Laura S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17306611914612560825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-85223032822085756822012-09-05T15:38:11.161-05:002012-09-05T15:38:11.161-05:00beautifully expressed. i sense the hope which is s...beautifully expressed. i sense the hope which is so important. how cherished your children will be! maybe the cursing is a hormonal thing? i find it soooooo liberating as i navigate (frequently without dignity!) the silent passage.:)<br /><br />smiles to you.<br /><br />michele<br /><br />michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04147970920141315262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-84536148207221861602012-09-05T15:06:38.867-05:002012-09-05T15:06:38.867-05:00Your honesty brought tears to my eyes. There are t...Your honesty brought tears to my eyes. There are too many precious souls out there in need of a loving mom & dad. Your precious one is waiting....<br />Can't wait to read about how you find one another. Sending you strength & love!Cristinahttp://cristinasurplus.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-24717847783410639422012-09-05T13:02:32.014-05:002012-09-05T13:02:32.014-05:00no you can keep cursing for a while. My son is 2.5...no you can keep cursing for a while. My son is 2.5 and we're just getting around to curtailing it. Huge congratulations on the decision to become a mom. It does not matter how it will happen. samantha hahnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06714587497837312261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8872712733955065437.post-44848372957034973992012-09-05T11:49:53.274-05:002012-09-05T11:49:53.274-05:00To put it simply but not to minimize in any way….b...To put it simply but not to minimize in any way….boo that your lady parts failed you and yeah to the excitement that comes with putting an end to one path and opening yourself up to another (adoption). <3Kerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06392036142436127628noreply@blogger.com