I already said this, but I can't say it enough (but twice is good, ok). Thank you. Your comments and emails have been so touching and I have read and re-read every one. I hope we can keep this super fun dialogue going!
there are tons of ways of getting over fear, or learning about being
brave and all that stuff, but I don't know shit. I only know from my own
life, so I am happy to offer you some straight up facts. Fact one: The
best advice anyone has ever given you is to get the over yourself. No one cares about you, or thinks about you as much as you do.
They (people in general, the very people who you are scared will judge
you when they see your art, those people..ok) don't care if your art
sucks, they don't even care if you are successful unless they are
comparing their success to yours...it is a sucky reality, but humans be
humans yo. There is a way to hump this hump though, and here it is...Get
over yourself again.
know...but listen. Don't focus on yourself or your ego. Put your energy
(when you are engaging with other people, even in your head) outside of
yourself and your opinions, and put it on other people. Think about
them. Support them and encourage them and even love them and be genuine
about it. Example...you are chatting with a new person and they are all
"Dude, my art is so awesome, I make these glitter bird cages with
skeletons in them wearing feather boas..." You are probably like "um,
you and your art sucks" and even as you try to be nice to them, your
not, you want to get away from that freaky bitch and it probably shows.
Instead...remove your opinions from the equation, don't judge her (ok,
try not to, I am even judging her a little right now...). Her art
doesn't define her, just like your art doesn't define you, so why have negative thoughts about it? Just be supportive and genuine. Don't care so much about what you think, cuz who the hell are you anyway?
to think this way even when you are on Pinterest or trolling around the
Internet and see a blog or some new art that isn't something you might
gravitate towards. Don't even think bad things about it, and never say
anything out loud that you wouldn't want that person to hear you say. I
know I sound like a fucking Kindergarten teacher, but seriously, you
have to project good energy out of yourself like a rainbow out of your
every orifice because you will get it back. I promise.
will be surprised how much more support you get when you become the
kind of person who supports others, and this erases fear. At least it
does for me. If you want some help in this area, try reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.
This book is all about being yourself, without your ego. Like step back
and look at your ego and be all, fuck you ego, your not the boss of me.
One of my favorite quotes is this:
"When you don't cover up the world with words and labels, a sense of the miraculous returns to your life"
So basically fear comes from you, so stop it! Here is one more line from A New Earth
that really resonates with me because when he talks about the ego, I am
conscious of the fact that our ego is what we are trying to protect
when we are scared, and ego is is what motivates other people to be
negative (also makes us negative, but you get my drift.)
to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways not
only of going beyond ego in yourself but also of dissolving the collective
human ego. But you can only be in a state of nonreaction if you can
recognize someone's behavior as coming from the ego, as being an
expression of the collective human dysfunction. When you realize it's not
personal, there is no longer a compulsion to react as if it were."
I kinda struggled with this one because basically if you want to be fearless, you have to decide to be fearless. That is really all there is to it. But there are other things I think about that help.
1. Change your perspective: Think about how most of the people on this earth don't even have clean water to drink. Imagine how hard it is to be fearless in Syria...or Afghanistan. It kind of makes me sick to think about other people's misery to make myself feel better, so that isn't the point. The point it is to focus on what is good!
2. Make a mantra for yourself of what you are grateful for! Wake up every day, or right before you upload your work for the internet and just focus on all of the wonderful things in your life! Your health, safety, family, whatever it may be.
we are getting all touchy feely here, lets talk about self help books. I
like em. Personally I have a problem with spiraling negative thinking.
Like picture this: I am driving my car, going to work, it's a beautiful
day but I can't stop fantasizing about my husband dying or something
awful, by the time I get to work I am a bitter old lady who never found
love again...and dies alone in a shitty apartment no one ever visits me
in...it's that bad. I sometimes have to put in some headphones with Tony Robins or Eckhart Tolle just so they can talk me off the ledge. I have had some really great success with NLP, check it out.
I learned how to stop having recurring bad dreams b/c of those
people...I love them. I mention this because again, our self obsessions
are the real problem, at least to me.
Last but not least, I am going to post some interviews
I have put together with some very inspiring ladies, but I wanted to
mention my friend Jessica Swift.
She is simply one of the most positive people I know, and I love
reading her blog because she loves to talk about motivation among other
things. These posts are really cool because she shows her work as she takes an E course on being fearless in yourself and your art.
I would love to hear about how you get over your fears! Also,
what are you scared of? How is your fear blocking your flow? Who would
you be if fear were out of the picture?
These are our chairs. I went, I sat, I decided. Dark brownish gray velvet. Amen. On another note, that Sheila B living room was probabl...
Cue peppy 50's era music and narrator... Here it is, demystified and laid plain; how commissioning a painting works. Lets use my clien...
First things first, lets sets set some ground rules. I really have no idea what I am doing, but I hope what I have to say is helpful, I trul...
Third time in two months I have seen Sense and Sensibility ...I heart Jane Austen, but I don't think we would have been friends if I ...
Beautiful wedding images from days gone by, that I saved years ago for my own wedding inspiration. I ended up being too harried to act...
Last weekend O and I celebrated our anniversary in New York. We took that trip to Portland in September kinda also to celebrate our annivers...
Working on a commission today for the gallery. This is the second go. I had to paint over the first attempt. I don't mind when that hap...
This really cute mood board over Snippet and Ink reminds me of my new painting... Harry, 48x48
...well almost. Went with a fireclay farmhouse sink , as you can see (my folks are re-doing their kitchen so they bought the double bowl a...
So I decided to do a Calendar this year. Whuppeee. 13x19, features my Antonia painting, signed, $30 usd. Printed using archival inks on ...